PRC CentersFind a PRC
PRC DirectorsFor Directors Option Ultrasound™ Benevolent Resources Hot Topics Find an Answer
PRC PartnersBoardLink Volunteer Be A Voice
Support the MinistryDonate Online Volunteers Pray for Focus
This free monthly
e-newsletter provides guidance and practical information to Pregnancy Center boardmembers. Enter your e-mail address below to sign up.
Does Abortion Affect Men?Daniel’s Story
“Ten years have passed since my unforeseen encounter with abortion. I was 20 and my girlfriend was 17. We were immature, in love and uniformed. It was a cool, rainy day in October when I stopped on my way to work to talk with her mother.
I was concerned that ‘Ann’ hadn’t seemed herself for the last few weeks. What I found out that day has had a profound effect on my life- I learned that ‘Ann’ had had an abortion.
To this day I have been trying to understand why. After the abortion, our relationship deteriorated, and we went our separate ways. I have not been able to maintain a stable relationship since.
The desire I had for life and what it might hold did not seem as important to me after I learned of the abortion.
The death of the child my girlfriend was carrying lives on in my memory. It is hard to describe what it feels like being unable to deal with something such as this. The abortion devastated my emotions. Had I inquired in to what was bothering ‘Ann’ sooner, I might have made a difference in the decision she made.
I have thought so often of what things might have been like if she had not had that abortion…what it would have been like to see our child grow up. It’s hard to discuss a subject like this with anyone.”
Men experience post-abortion trauma. The fact isn’t always openly acknowledged. But it is true. Thousands of men just like you suffer silently, deeply and alone.
It’s okay to hurt. It’s good because it shows that you care. But those hurts must be dealt with so that you can out the abortion in perspective and get on with your life.
You may have hurt from one of several reasons:
Wounds from an abortion experience often take time to heal. Here are some things you can do to help your healing process.
Copyright © 2005 Focus on the Family All rights reserved. International copyright secured.
© 2011 Focus
on the Family